>>85097forgot to respond to this but thanks for the reply, this bread turned out to be far more interesting than i initially expected.
>you could try to delude yourself into be aromantic/aroace by way of constant affirmation (i.e. thinking to yourself "i will never love roastie")ive always been pretty hesitant towards that brand of new age/ pop-psych stuff, but i do think this is worth a try. its not a high risk endeavor like tulpamancy where the worst that can happen is that i end up stuck having my conscious psychic energy ripped from me while i become enslaved to a malevolent egregore, and the reward of something good happening (overcoming desire) far outweighs the negative of nothing happening. im not going to rule out tulpas entirely though, but i don't think im very inclined to do it
>truly, i think you should try and talk to that girl you likei dont really care for her anymore, at least i don't think i do. i notice that my mind only usually wanders to this stuff when i don't have anything that important to be upset or worried about. i can overcome it, at least until i feel another bout of it coming on. i say that because i notice that these feelings usually come in phases, which makes them hard to eliminate entirely, but there is a definite period of reprieve.
>or do what most normies do, and find the "good enough" to piss your life away withi would rather die alone than settle for a female who doesn't truly love me just because it was economically convenient for her and socially/sexually convenient for me. i say this without a whiff of sour grapes. i seriously cannot think of a more imprisoning life than being a slave to my wife like most married normie males are, getting nagged all day by a loveless, used up female who only settled for them because they're a few years older, have a decent career and they're not dreadfully ugly. the omnipresent fear of being divorced, cheated on or having your life ruined some other way due to a neurotic outburst over a trivial argument does not seem worth it.
<on this point, something noteworthy is that, unless you're a chad, you will end up contorting and shifting most of your political & philosophical opinions, hobbies and style of self presentation to conform to your girlfriend's preferences more often than not, at least from what i've observed. there's an entire archetype of males whos only mating strategy is pandering as hard as they can to roasties by dressing like a metropolitan fag, listening to overrated "indie" music and spouting turboleftist politics, and they don't exist for no reason.
>love is a miraculous thing chudtrue THOUGH
>>85287>I recommend you stop doing it and to start judging your life from a neutral perspective, seeing both your good and bad traits as they are, to give yourself the comfort you seek from others even when it sounds fake. Trust me, it helps.good advice, thank you