it's a lot of work to stay hard but not immediately cum. if you fap a lot sex with a woman becomes impossible to stay erect because you get used to ur hands grip versus a sloppy wet puss.
a lot of women will just lay there and expect you to do all the work, I think since I'm not explicitly masculine I have a hard time with that larp of being the "fucker". If I wasn't into women I'd just fuck men, cause I prefer to spend time with them a lot more.
basically, it's nothingburger.
lots of people in their teens/20s get all sex crazed but then realize its a meme and the best sex happens when u actually give a shit about the person instead of using them as a cock/hole to get off with.
we don't need others to get off, but we do need others to FEEL love and to connect. and that connection is more powerful than masturbation. hope this helps