>>4186542I mean I guess that sucks, but do you really need that car? I understand wanting a car to be independent and whatnot, but why would you go for an expensive car? I don't know how high of an income your household makes, but even if it were above average, your dad may just be trying to help you discipline your spending and not be so materialistic. Maybe you can buy a Mercedes, but do you need it? I don't know you, your family, or this situation so I'm going to claim for certain that you or anybody else is wholly wrong and beyond reason, but what I can say for certain is that this kind of stuff is a really petty reason to have such spite and malice for your family. I feel that my family had constrained me through my childhood too and truthfully I don't even like most of my family and prefer not to talk to them unless necessary, but it had never genuinely crossed my mind to hate them for their ignorance or mistakes they made if I can recognize the intent isn't above that. I can understand the frustration building up within you if you had experienced this stuff for a lifetime, but again, are those kind of materialistic concerns really worth hating them over? Maybe you can try asking him why he doesn't want you to get the car. He doesn't exist purely as an obstacle against you; he has his own reasoning and logic for that decision. I don't know if that logic is any good, but regardless, he is genuine in his belief that you don't need the car and there is a reason for that. Use the socratic method and get to the essence of things.
